Thursday 12 January 2012

SHE IS STRONG


"My Maariamma bays for blood.My Kali kills. My Draupadi strips. My Sita climbs on to a stranger’s lap. All my women militate. They brave bombs, they belittle kings…. Call me names if it comforts you. I no longer care. "


Writes Meena Kandasamy, celebrating the loud, slutty sensibility and the new discovered power in women.
She lashes out at a Toronto police officer’s remark – “Women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimised” – to York University  students during a campus-safety briefing.
Men need to understand- that a short dress is NOT a yes! But unfortunately, its nearly next to impossible to expect this from half of the male population in India. 

Kandasamy further quotes:  

It is flawed logic to expect Indian men to not indulge in leching, leering, groping, harassing, molesting and raping women on the streets when they are seasoned wife-beaters at home. According to UN statistics, more than two-thirds of married Indian women have experienced domestic violence; when our homes are unsafe, it is impossible to imagine our streets will turn safe unless we address the fundamental assumption that men have a right to control women’s bodies.






"Nazar teri buri, burkha main pehnu ?"- were the headlines in Delhi Times as hundreds of women took to streets to protest against explaining or excusing rape by referring any aspect of a woman's appearance.   
If a house is robbed because the window was open, who is to be held responsible for it? Obviously the robber and not the robbed. But alas, here many will accuse the robbed for keeping the window open as an 'invitation' to him. Same is the case with the women.
Eve teasing froze the nation. In the day-light, with hundred cowards as spectators, women are pushed into their graves of shame. Many watch with anguish in their eyes, while others with the desire to call for help, yet no one steps forward to save the innocent soul.
 
I am a dead woman,
 A victim who became a show for many
Yearning for a Krishna to save this Draupadi
now my heart stops me to step out
' you might become a prey again' it shouts out loud.

Life was squeezed out from many women souls returning form work at three in the morning. Yet hundreds of women work at call centers, BECAUSE SHE IS STRONG.
Drunk men harass girls at bars. Yet many women work there and serve them without any fear, BECAUSE SHE IS STRONG
Short dresses are a 'come and molest me' for millions. Yet women have the courage to dress the way they want to, BECAUSE SHE IS STRONG
Domestic violence and demand for dowry still surface. Yet every women wishes to marry and live peacefully. BECAUSE SHE IS STRONG


There  is light at the end of the tunnel and she will feel it one day
she will rise up, beyond harassment, worthlessness and slay
She has the right to live the way she wants, and she will
call her a slut or whore, her lips will stay still
If a man can go to bars and discos, so can she
time is changing , today she is equal to he
Let our tongues unite, not to call her names
but to give her respect and uncover her from shame
She has arrived to prove every man wrong
that She is not weak, she is STRONG!




  

Monday 9 January 2012

TEENAGE LOVE

   poem credits- Suvidh Jain


Love can happen to anyone and anytime. It's something unpredictable and unplanned.

For Teenagers like us, love is like a hat. We feel warm in it. We know how it looks. But when it gets old, we eventually want to discard it or when we see a better one in the market we yearn for that one. Don't we? Maybe that's because we are NOT ready to settle our minds onto one thing. 
At this age, we are like those butterflies who want a sip of nectar from every flower in the garden! I know it's an amusing example, but it’s true!
Teenage is a confusing phase of life, where a lot of things are going on in our heads, but we ourselves are unaware of most of it!
At this age our 'love hormones' are quite much at work, 24*7. Be it the school canteen or the mall, getting attracted is not something unusual. We see our parents knitted in a beautiful relationship with each other, since years. Are we mature enough to understand the find of bond they share?

Are our minds developed enough to find true love? I feel that teen love is trail love. It's the stepping stone for what we may choose in future. But one thing I can be quite sure is that the purpose or motive of teenage love is PURE. It's completely on the bases of attraction and not for money, status or power! If we believe in love at this age then let me make it clear. It’s not love. Its attraction. We can't expect to marry our boyfriend or girlfriend of this age. Breakup is bound to happen and it depends upon us how we take it.
If we are in a relationship, we must be ready to face an end to it.
Depressed statuses of heartbroken people on face book are very common. We all read them. Don't we? Some say, “I feel alone and hollow" while others say “collecting shattered pieces of my broken heart is difficult” and what not !
If you can’t bare the pain of separation (which has to happen sooner or later), then without any doubt you are not ready for a relationship. We have to live with the fact that relationships of this age are not meant to be long term.
Being what we are today, if we look back to the kind of clothes we used to wear earlier, it’s not something we are fans of! Choices and decisions at this age do see-saw! Then how can our partner seem to be an eye candy till the time we decide to marry (which is not going to happen in the next 10 years!) if choices can change in a year, then clinging to your decision for a decade is impossible.
I am not against emotions we all experience. Being fascinated is not a crime. It’s something which is not in our hands. Getting into a relationship is also okay. But we shall be prepared to manage it. It’s important to make sure; we don’t get swayed away by emotions. If our studies are being affected or if we are not able to spare time for us, then we are being deprived of a lot because of this relationship. If we can manage its aftermaths or not is another important factor? If it ends on a bitter note, then surely a tint of immature behavior was involved.
A friend of mine (I won’t take names here) was in a relationship for long, but they met only twice. When it ended, she realized that he cheated her. 
And then, from somewhere she developed the desire to slap that guy! The girl who I thought was mature enough to be with someone for this long had suddenly turned into a crazy heartbroken girl! She created a fake account on face book to get in touch with him again. But thankfully she realized that it was a really kiddish thing to do! 

Attraction will happen, you will have crushes and maybe relationships
but teenage love is just a learning experience
 experience it, live it and  love it but don't construct dreams of glass!


My one is the best rest of them are worst
Is it true love or just our thirst 
Thirst to be with someone
To be commited and to have fun
Is it love or just an attraction
Is it love or just our satisfaction
How can someone bcom our need
Is it love or just a greed
May its want or our desire
May be it is true or our heart is a liar
Breakups, that's what happens at the last
Promises of staying together are now just the past
Its a small age to be together
Its a small age to promise to be forever
Is it love or just an attraction
Is it love or just our satisfaction

Saturday 7 January 2012

DO WE LACK IT




When ever I decide to take a book and sit down to study, somehow, even starring a wall seems to be more interesting. 
Showing a school circular to mom would be something I wont remember until I am asked to learn a chapter.

My irritating little cousin would suddenly become the most entertaining person ever when I am supposed to sit alone and prepare for my test next day!
helping my mother with the kitchen work becomes my 'must-to-do duty' during study time, even though it doesn't when I am updating my status on Facebook.
 Does studying brings with it a sense of immediate change and then obviously takes it back because after that when we are doing what we want to, we don't know anyone else around us!
And it is certainly not my counter with studies alone, it's the same story for every child of this generation. 
I have an explanation on why I said 'this generation'
let me narrate to you the story of my grandfather's life.

He never saw his father. His father died when he was in his mother's womb. She was a single parent with five children to look after. obviously it was not easy for them to meet their ends. They had no electricity, no good schools, no fancy uniforms, no tuition and yet an Excellent education!
My grandfather did not have enough money to buy books, he used to borrow them , make notes and study from them. For complete nights he used to study under street lights and work hard. Because he did not want his children to live like he did !

he worked hard and it paid off. He is a retired professor of economics at Sri Ram College, one of the most reputed collages of India.

On the other hand, we despite having all the resources on a silver platter won't like to waste our time on studying.  today, we have excellent books, tuition centers, we study in reputed schools, we have the luxury to sit in an air conditioned room and study, yet we fail to give our best!
We may blame to the distractions around us like the computer, guests at home, an ill relative and what not but what the fact is that we lack IT


 Do we lack time ? No ! Resources? No!
What we lack is DETERMINATION and DEDICATION.